I recently celebrated becoming 30 and whilst I still feel like a teenager it wasn’t as “dramatic” as I’d dreaded it to be. I was really on edge about getting what seemed like to me as old….. However, I really didn’t have to be so worried. And let’s be honest 30 is the new 20 these days! Nothing has changed, I’m still just as silly and young spirited as ever and I’m actually reaching the conclusion that the old cliché “You are as old as you feel” really is true.
Expectations And Pressure
I used to think that by 30 I would have achieved most of my big accomplishments in life such as buying a house, getting married and starting a family. I have done none of those things….but that is OK. Putting pressure on yourself when things just don’t plan out the way you thought is pointless and although age does creep up on people we really have to just learn to live in our own timeframes. Sometimes things just don’t feel right and ready for us. I used to think that my friends around me were more goal achieving than me and feel quite disheartened. A few of my friends now are married and house owners. However, some aren’t and that is OK too. Being happy for those around you and treating your story as separate is far more beneficial.
Feeling Too Old
I used to think when I reached 30 I would be “too old for blogging” and be cut off from the community. This is actually laughable as I follow quite a few bloggers and age really doesn’t come into it. Some could be 25 and others 35 but they still have qualities I aspire to. I also think you are as old as you feel and just because I am 30 doesn’t mean I have to take life with a more sensible stance. Obviously, I like to be sensible in life but I also like to act with a childish quality such as silly dancing at home to “Saturday Night” by Whigfield.
Not Appreciating Your Achievements
Yes, I am probably think most days that I haven’t achieved enough for my years and for instance my career is not at the peak of success in the eyes of an outsider. Conversely, I actually HAVE achieved a great deal. Even though I have changed career paths I have achieved this. I have also started a blog and I have a great violin teaching job. I may not be earning enough at the moment but I have a great life in so many other ways.
What are your thoughts on age bracketing?